Things to consider for your elopement wedding

Run away with me

The Idea of eloping can be very exciting and adventurous, but if you’re opting for a no-frills wedding, planning your elopement still deserves a little thought. You need to figure out where to do it, what to wear, how to make it special, and what to do afterwards.  All of this while handling all the emotions that comes with it. Plus, you’ve got to plan for telling your parents and friends. That’s why we’ve put together a little guide on how to elope – the must-dos, and the most definitely don’ts!

Do It for the Right Reasons

Eloping can be something of a statement, so if you’re planning to get married without your friends and family by your side, make sure it’s something you really want.  And that you’re doing it right reasons. Saving money, avoiding fuss, keeping things intimate and personal or avoiding family drama.  These are all completely valid reasons to elope – just make sure you’ve thought a lot about your decision, and it’s what you both want.

Photo by Christelle Rall Photography

Don’t Feel Bad About It

There can be a lot of guilt associated with elopements, so this might be easier said than done, but try not to feel bad about your decision – you don’t have to justify it to anyone. Of course, some friends and family might be initially disappointed with the idea of not sharing your day with you, but once they get over the shock, chances are, they’ll be nothing but happy for you. I think the adage of “prepare yourself for the worst but expect the best” is key for this. Hopefully everyone will be rooting for you but try not to be upset if a couple of people aren’t as excited about your news as you’d hoped.

Do Have a Reveal Plan

You might want to throw a big party when you get back and let all your pals know you’ve eloped.  Or send out announcement cards, or perhaps you want to quietly tell your nearest and dearest about your good news and leave it at that.  Have a plan to let people know about your elopement. When it comes to parents, siblings and close friends, it’s important that they hear the news from you in person and not through the grapevine or worse, on social media. Have a bit of a script ready to go – and remember, you don’t need to explain yourself, but you both need to be on the same page when it comes to letting friends and family in on your big surprise.

Photo by Christelle Rall Photography

Don’t Dismiss the Legalities

This is one of the most important elopement wedding tips.  Make sure you read up on the legalities of where you’re getting married.  How long you need to register in advance, what ID and paperwork you need to bring, and whether the marriage will be valid. We all have a romantic notion of an impromptu wedding where you just book your flights and say, “I Do”, but sadly, even the most fanciful gestures require some forethought. And don’t forget to collect your marriage certificate before you fly home.

Do Think About the Destination

Do you want a chic city elopement, bohemian vibes with the sand between your toes or a classic affair with a spectacular mountain view as your backdrop?  Once you’ve decided on the look and feel you want for your elopement, you can start building a plan from there.  The Garden Route and Klein Karoo has the most amazing natural settings for elopement and intimate weddings.  Mountains, rivers, beaches, lakes, waterfalls, the semi Karoo and the list just goes on and on.  Check out speciality elopement wedding planners, Elope to Eden for all your elopement wedding needs with customized packages that will eliminate all the stress for your wedding planning.  

Photo by Christelle Rall Photography

Don’t Forget to Book a Photographer

We always think booking a photographer is a sound investment for your wedding day, and even more so if you’re eloping. Having pictures to show your friends and family will make them feel part of your day. Plus, you’ll have keepsakes of your vows to keep the memories alive.

Do Make It Special

Another one of our most important elopement wedding tips are to still make your special day… well special!  Just because you don’t have 120 guests to wine, dine and entertain doesn’t mean your elopement shouldn’t be special. Whether it’s writing personalized vows, splashing out on a fancy limousine, eating wedding cake for breakfast, or going to an expensive restaurant for dinner, do whatever it is that will make your wedding day feel special and truly memorable. The best thing about eloping is that you can do whatever you want, so make sure you do.

Photo by Christelle Rall Photography

Don’t Meet Your Vendors for the First Time at Your Wedding

So, this isn’t a strict one, but it’s highly advised. Your vendors will help make your day special and building a relationship with them beforehand will ensure that your elopement is stress-free and relaxed.  Technology is your friend here with skype and multiple other mediums available for a face to face meeting beforehand.  Make sure you are on the same page to avoid disappointment. 

Do Rock Something Gorgeous

It doesn’t have to be white or formal. It doesn’t have to be a dress or a suit. And it certainly doesn’t have to be “wedding appropriate”. But do make sure you wear something special to you on your wedding day, whether it’s a sequin bridal jumpsuit, a little white dress, your granny’s pearl necklace, your favourite printed shirt – or indeed full formal wedding day attire. Have some fun with your look and make sure you feel incredible on your wedding day, even if you’re only dressing up for yourself and your other half.

Photo by Christelle Rall Photography for Yes Events!

Don’t Write-Off a Wedding Day Timeline

You might not think you need one – after all, eloping is about throwing out the rule book, right? – but thinking about the structure of your day is the best way to make the most of it. If the ceremony takes 15 minutes, and dinner takes two hours, there’s still a lot of day to fill. Take time with your hair and makeup, have a long breakfast or pre-ceremony lunch, have a couples’ massage, or go all out with your photography session – just make sure there’s a flow to your day so you can keep up the excitement and momentum.

The Garden Route and Klein Karoo is the perfect location for your elopement or intimate wedding.  With beautiful landscapes and world class, luxury wedding venues.  Local specialist wedding vendors will make sure your day is perfect.  Spoil yourself and your loved one with a dream wedding in our paradise – without having to brake the bank.